Is it weird to catch yourself comparing your relationship to others?

It's a very common human tendency to look at what others have, and that can include their relationships. Our brains are wired to observe and make sense of the world around us, and sometimes that manifests as an automatic comparison. This doesn't mean anything is wrong with your relationship, just that you're noticing differences.

Research suggests that social comparison is a fundamental human behavior, with some studies indicating that over 60% of adults frequently compare their lives, including relationships, to those of othe

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Am I the only one who constantly catches myself comparing my relationship to others?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone catch themselves comparing their relationship to others?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to catch yourself comparing your relationship to others?

Is It Normal?

Why do I keep comparing my relationship to everyone else's?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I keep comparing my relationship to my friends' relationships?▾
Social media often showcases highlights, not the full picture, which can make others' relationships seem perfect. It's easy to fall into the trap of measuring your reality against an idealized version you see online or hear about from others.
Does comparing mean I'm unhappy in my relationship?▾
Not necessarily. Sometimes comparisons can stem from curiosity or a desire for reassurance. While it can sometimes point to an underlying concern, it's often just a natural thought pattern that doesn't reflect deep dissatisfaction.
How can I stop comparing my relationship to other couples?▾
Focusing on the unique strengths and joys within your own relationship can be helpful. Redirecting your attention to what you appreciate about your partner and your shared life can lessen the urge to compare with others.

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