Am I the only one who obsesses over whether I called my parents enough?

Many adults find themselves replaying interactions and worrying about their communication frequency with parents. This often stems from a deep sense of love and responsibility, coupled with a desire to maintain strong family bonds. It's a common experience to feel a pull between personal life demands and the wish to stay connected.

Research into adult child-parent relationships indicates that over 60% of adults report feeling some level of obligation or concern about maintaining frequent communication with their parents, particu

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Does everyone obsess over whether they called their parents enough?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to obsess over whether you called your parents enough?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to obsess over whether you called your parents enough?

Is It Weird?

Why do I obsess over whether I called my parents enough?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

How often should I call my parents?▾
There's no universal rule for how often to call parents; it really depends on your family's communication style and what feels comfortable and sustainable for everyone. Some families connect daily, while others prefer weekly or bi-weekly check-ins. The key is finding a rhythm that works for you and your parents.
Why do I feel guilty if I don't call my parents?▾
Guilt often arises from a combination of societal expectations, personal values about family, and a strong desire to show care and respect. You likely value your relationship with your parents deeply, and when communication feels less than ideal, it can trigger feelings of not doing enough.
What if my parents expect more calls than I can give?▾
It's helpful to have an open conversation with your parents about expectations. You can express your love and commitment while also gently explaining your current capacity for communication. Finding a middle ground where both parties feel heard and respected is often the best approach.

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