Why do I obsess over whether I called my parents enough?

This feeling often stems from a deep-seated desire to be a good child and maintain strong family bonds. It can be a reflection of your own values regarding connection and care for loved ones. Sometimes, it's also influenced by past interactions or a general tendency towards self-reflection and concern for others' well-being.

Research from the Pew Research Center indicates that strong intergenerational ties are a priority for a significant majority of adults, often leading to feelings of obligation and concern.

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Am I the only one who obsesses over whether I called my parents enough?

Am I the Only One?

Does everyone obsess over whether they called their parents enough?

Does Everyone?

Is it normal to obsess over whether you called your parents enough?

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Is it weird to obsess over whether you called your parents enough?

Is It Weird?

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Frequently Asked Questions

How can I stop feeling guilty about family communication?▾
Focus on consistent, quality interactions rather than just quantity. Consider what feels genuinely sustainable for you and your parents. Open communication about expectations can also be helpful.
What if my parents expect me to call them daily?▾
It's important to understand their expectations and yours. If there's a mismatch, a gentle conversation about what's realistic for both parties can help manage expectations and reduce your guilt.

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