Is it normal to obsess over whether you called your parents enough?

Feeling a persistent worry about whether you're connecting enough with your parents is a very common experience. Many adults find themselves replaying interactions and questioning if they've met unspoken expectations, often stemming from a deep desire to be a good child. This kind of rumination often comes from love and a sense of familial responsibility, rather than any actual failing on your part.

Research into adult child-parent relationships suggests that approximately 65% of adults report feeling some level of guilt related to their interactions with aging parents.

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Am I the only one who obsesses over whether I called my parents enough?

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Does everyone obsess over whether they called their parents enough?

Does Everyone?

Is it weird to obsess over whether you called your parents enough?

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Why do I obsess over whether I called my parents enough?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I feel guilty about not calling my parents?▾
Guilt often arises from societal expectations around family connection, your personal sense of duty, or even past family dynamics. It's a sign you value your relationship with your parents deeply.
How often should I call my parents?▾
There's no single 'right' answer, as it depends entirely on your family's communication style and what feels comfortable and sustainable for everyone involved. Some families talk daily, others weekly, or less frequently.
What if my parents expect more calls than I can give?▾
It can be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your parents about your schedule and communication preferences. Finding a rhythm that works for both sides, even if it's not daily, can reduce stress for everyone.

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