Does everyone obsess over whether they called their parents enough?

Many adults grapple with guilt about not connecting more frequently with their parents. This feeling often stems from a deep love and sense of responsibility for family bonds. It's a common experience rooted in the desire to maintain strong relationships and ensure our loved ones feel cherished.

Research from the University of Michigan suggests that maintaining regular contact with parents is a significant source of emotional well-being for many adults, contributing to feelings of obligation

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Am I the only one who obsesses over whether I called my parents enough?

Am I the Only One?

Is it normal to obsess over whether you called your parents enough?

Is It Normal?

Is it weird to obsess over whether you called your parents enough?

Is It Weird?

Why do I obsess over whether I called my parents enough?

Why Do I?

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do I feel guilty about not calling my parents?▾
Guilt about parent contact often comes from a blend of love, respect, and a desire to meet perceived expectations. We want to be good children and maintain strong family ties, which can lead to these feelings.
How often should I call my parents?▾
The ideal frequency for calling parents varies greatly by family and individual circumstances. There's no universal rule; what feels right for one family might be too much or too little for another. Focus on what maintains a comfortable connection for everyone involved.
What if my parents expect more calls than I can give?▾
It's helpful to have an open conversation with your parents about expectations. Explaining your schedule and commitment can help them understand your availability. Finding a consistent rhythm that works for both sides, even if it's not daily, can reduce stress.

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